Why You Chase Love

You never have to chase love when you are connected.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Chasing love is painful. When you’re in an unstable relationship and you don’t know where you stand with the other person because they’re being inconsistent, it can cause you to become anxious and need reassurance that you are loved. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So you end up chasing your partner for attention and affection, or you try to change yourself in some way to make yourself more attractive to your partner so they will want to spend more time with you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You could spend years trying to figure out how to make the relationship better this way, but you probably won’t ever achieve the kind of healthy fulfilling relationship you desire because underneath it all you don’t trust your worthiness to be supported. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When you have this inner dynamic and conflict going on, relationships don’t feel safe to you because it would require you to be vulnerable. An unavailable partner may seem more attractive to you because you’ll never have to face your fear of fully opening up and being seen. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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On the conscious level of course you want a partner who will be there for you, accept you and love all of you, but on the subconscious level it feels scary so you keep repeating the same pattern.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Chances are you experienced shame or rejection in your childhood when you expressed yourself. And that caused you to close down emotionally in some way and hide the parts of yourself that you don’t feel are lovable. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The best way to end your cycle of painful relationships is to heal your connection to yourself. When you are connected, you don’t have to chase, beg, or force love to come your way. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Connection is the key. If you want to experience deeper more profound love and end the pattern of unstable relationships, I may be able to help. Send me a DM to see if my three step, 8 week program will work for you.